Dec 25, 2025 11:31:35 AM

Cord-Cutting Rituals: Severing the Ties to Past Heartbreak

A woman meditating with crystals during a cord-cutting ritual after a breakup. (1)

Discover how to perform a Cord-Cutting Ritual to release emotional ties from past relationships and reclaim your energy for new beginnings.

By Doctor Bula Moyo Love Spiritualist | 🌙 Let's Chat now on WhatsApp✅

In the journey of love magic, the most difficult obstacle isn't usually "finding the right person"—it’s letting go of the wrong one. Even after a physical breakup, invisible energetic strings, known as Etheric Cords, can remain attached to your heart.

These cords act like "leaks" in your energy. They allow an ex-partner to continue draining your emotional strength, even if you haven't spoken in years. If you find yourself constantly checking their social media, dreaming of them against your will, or feeling "blocked" from meeting someone new, it is time for a Cord-Cutting.

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What is an Etheric Cord?

Every time we share intimacy—emotional, physical, or spiritual—with someone, we weave a cord between our energy centers (usually the heart or the sacral chakra).

Healthy Cords: These are vibrant, flexible, and based on mutual love. They feel like a warm "battery" that feeds both people.
Toxic Cords: These are heavy, dark, and based on obsession, guilt, or trauma. They feel like a "chain" that prevents you from moving forward.

A Cord-Cutting ritual is not an act of hate. It is an act of Self-Preservation. It is the spiritual equivalent of "unsubscribing" from a frequency that no longer serves your growth.

The "Two Candles" Cord-Cutting Ritual

This is the most visually powerful and effective way to witness the energetic separation between you and another person.

1. What You’ll Need:

Two Candles: (White for you, and a color that represents them—or another white one).
A Length of String or Twine: (Natural fibers like cotton or hemp work best).
A Fire-Safe Tray or Bowl.
Sea Salt: To create a circle of protection.

2. The Procedure:

Set the Stage: Place the two candles on the tray about 6 inches apart. Create a circle of salt around both.
The Binding: Tie the string around your candle, then stretch it across and tie it around their candle. This represents the "cord" currently keeping you connected.
The Intent: Take a deep breath. Look at the candle representing your ex. Say: "I acknowledge the lessons we shared. I acknowledge the love and the pain. But I no longer belong to you, and you no longer belong to me."
The Cut: Use a pair of scissors (or let the flames eventually burn the string) to cut the cord in the middle. As it snaps, say: "I cut the ties. I reclaim my soul. I am free, and I am whole."
The Burn: Light both candles. Let them burn down completely. Observe how they burn—if one flickers more than the other, it shows who was holding onto the energy more tightly.

3 Rules for a Successful Cord-Cutting

Rule	Why it Matters
No Contact	You cannot cut a cord and then text them the next day. This "re-ties" the knot instantly.
Focus on Relief	Do not do this ritual to "get revenge." Do it to feel Peace.
The Finality	Once the ritual is done, throw the remains (wax and string) away in a bin outside your home.

What to Expect After the Ritual

A cord-cutting can be emotional. You may feel:

A "Lightness" in the Chest: As if a physical weight has been lifted.
A "Phantom" Urge: You might feel an impulse to check on them one last time. This is just the "echo" of the cord—ignore it, and it will fade.
A Shift in Them: Curiously, when you cut the cord, the other person often "feels" it. Don't be surprised if they try to contact you out of the blue a few days later. This is them trying to "re-hook" the energy. Stay strong and stay silent.

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Reader Testimonials

"I had been obsessed with my ex for two years. I couldn't date anyone else because I was always comparing them to him. I did a Cord-Cutting on a Waning Moon. The moment the string snapped, I burst into tears, but they were tears of relief. A week later, I went on a date and realized I hadn't thought about my ex once. I finally felt 'available' again."

— Lindiwe M., Johannesburg

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

Will a Cord-Cutting make them hate me?

No. It simply removes the "toxic" attachment. If you are meant to be friends in the future, you can form a new, healthy connection later. But for now, you need a "clean break" to heal.

Can I cut a cord with a family member?

Yes. You can cut cords with anyone who drains you—intrusive parents, toxic friends, or energy-vampire colleagues. It doesn't mean you "stop loving them," it just means you "stop letting them drain you."

What if the string doesn't burn?

If the string refuses to catch fire or break, it means you are not truly ready to let go. Spend more time on Self-Love Bathing and try again during the next New Moon.

Pro-Tip: The "Salt-Scrub" Finish

After your cord-cutting, take a shower and use a salt scrub on the area of your heart and your navel. These are the two primary spots where cords attach. The salt will "seal" the energy centers so new, toxic cords cannot easily hook back in.